This is one of the strongest words today. Like when we talk about how the world is, we never understand that it is exactly as how we perceive it. To make our lives a much better, all we need to do is change that point of view by tilting it a little and focus our energies in the right place. I won't be the best person to tell or discuss how or where to focus your energies but I can tell you something about perception.
The first step to all of this is acceptance:
Understand one thing and one thing which will always be there. Life is unfair. Once you accept this fact, you'll be a little clear on things like "Nothing will ever come easy to you". You will atleast stop repeating the fact that its unfair and smile at whatever happens, feeling that you knew it.
Be ambitious as hell. This doesn't mean that you will go crazy, no. That's over ambition but just simple plain ambition towards either your goal, the goal which you want to achieve. It can be something objective as being a pioneer in some field or be as subjective as being rich or being successful. Whatever it is, sort it out and be and move forward.
Now that you know that life isn't fair and never will be start working harder coz hey, you are ambitious anyway. You have to achieve what you've been wanting. So start working harder. Give in more. Go over the line. Cross it and do more. Just do enough to not let anyone stand there and be a competition. Don't do it to eliminate competition, no. That's again a seed to negativity. Do it because you want to.
Break the acceptance:
Now that you're working hard and being ambitious. Forget about everything else and understand that you might or might not get a fruit. Forget everything. Break the whole thing about life not being fair because it is.
"Look at people who're below you and be happy".
Below you would here refer to the people lower in the social strata. Everyone has something missing for whatever they have. Understand that. You're reading this post, you have something to read it on. There are a million other people who don't. Children who don't get proper meals.
You might ask me "Why should I compare myself with the people below me? Why not the great ones?" It is because I want you to stay happy, not absolutely content.
When you see people above you, set them as targets you want to surpass, if you want to and move towards them while working your way up the ranks. If someone is sitting on top and not doing anything, it is because of a reason that they have worked when they were in your place or if you think that it came too easy to them, there must be some problem somewhere. It cannot be perfect. Nothing is perfect. No one is perfect.
"Perfect is as perfect shows."
Change your view and change everything. Life is as you see it, as you perceive it. Try staying positive, try staying alive.